What is Abuse?

Whether it's friendships, work/academic relationships or romantic relations, everyone deserves to experience positive interactions and connections. Know the signs of abuse and find out where to find support should you need it.

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What is Abuse?

Abuse, in the context of relationships, refers to any behaviour that seeks to gain power and control over a partner. It takes various forms, and understanding the different facets is crucial in breaking the cycle.

What is Physical Abuse?

Physical abuse involves the use of force that causes bodily harm, injury, or pain. This can range from slapping, punching, or kicking to more severe acts of violence. Physical abuse is never acceptable and should never be tolerated in any relationship.

What's Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse is less visible but equally damaging. It includes behaviours that undermine an individual's self-worth, cause emotional distress, and manipulate their emotions. This can involve constant criticism, humiliation, and threats, creating an environment of fear and control.

What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that involves manipulating someone into questioning their reality. It may include denying facts, trivialising feelings, and making the victim doubt their sanity. Gaslighting erodes a person's self-confidence and makes them more susceptible to control.

What is Victim Blaming?

Victim blaming occurs when the responsibility for the abuse is wrongly placed on the victim rather than the perpetrator. This harmful attitude reinforces power imbalances and discourages survivors from seeking help, perpetuating a cycle of abuse.

Consent Within Relationships

Understanding and respecting consent is fundamental to healthy relationships. Consent is a voluntary, enthusiastic, and mutual agreement to engage in specific activities. It should be clear, communicated openly, and can be withdrawn at any time. In the absence of clear and enthusiastic consent, any act becomes a violation whether you're in a relationship with the person or not.

Moving Forward

This campaign aims to shed light on these different forms of abuse and empower students to recognise the signs, break the silence, and foster an environment where healthy relationships thrive.

University Support

Remember, if you think you could be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship or are worried about a friend, then please don’t hesitate to reach out to the University's Wellbeing team. They will be happy to discuss the situation with you to help you make informed choices, ask questions and seek support.  

You can contact the Wellbeing team by emailing wellbeing@royalholloway.ac.uk.   

Within the Wellbeing team, there is also the Student Counselling Service, which can help with relationship-related problems. They work in a non-judgmental way to help you.

External Support

We've also put together a list of external resources with helplines, information and support in case you need it.

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